DRIVING FORCE OF SUCCESS

An attitude toward one’s skills and abilities is known as self-confidence. One should be aware of both their strengths and limitations and should have a positive opinion of themselves. One needs to communicate assertively, manage criticism well, and set reasonable goals and expectations. A man who lacks self-assurance may be doubtful, passive, or submissive. He also loses his independence. The degree of confidence varies once more. Sometimes a person will have a lot of confidence in their academic abilities yet lack it in other areas, such as relationships. A good dose of self-assurance can make one more successful in both their personal and professional lives. It has been discovered that individuals with strong self-confidence levels excel academically. People are motivated to work toward their goals when they are confident. Psychologists provide an explanation for why certain people lack confidence. It could begin in childhood. It can be really unpleasant and embarrassing when someone doesn’t appreciate them. It can significantly impact life and cause self-confidence loss. This results in a lack of concern for other people. Adults can make each other’s lives miserable in a variety of ways, just as bullying among youngsters has its effects. Bullying and attempts to suppress others occur in all civilizations. This may occasionally be a result of someone’s origin, language, colour, gender, or even religion. The self-confidence of a person suffers as a result of this kind of activity. This can occasionally result in sadness, insecurity, a fear of failure, difficulty adjusting, and loneliness as well. Usually, the person who treats people with contempt is unaware of the effects their actions may have on others. Social media is now used to bully and denigrate others, which contributes to a decrease in self-confidence. As he avoids having to face the victim, the individual who engages in such behaviour does not care for the other person. This is often terrifying. Uncertainty, which can manifest itself in a variety of ways, may also be a factor. It frequently begins in the early years and may be brought on by bullying. A person may develop insecurity if they have a controlling or assertive parent. As a result of this uneasiness, you might have a bad opinion of yourself. A confident person possesses a number of distinctive traits, including an open mind, the capacity to rejoice in others’ achievements, optimism, a willingness to take calculated risks, a sense of self-awareness and humour, and a constant desire to learn and advance. A person who exudes confidence will always succeed in all endeavours. Such people have a competitive advantage at business, at home, in relationships, etc. Better performance is the main benefit of confident people. They pursue their task without taking the negatives into account, and they ultimately produce superior work. People who are confident can build healthy relationships and have good social skills. Because they have self-confidence, they are more resilient. They have the capacity to recover quickly and deal with any difficulties they encounter. They are willing to attempt new things at all times. People lacking self-confidence think they are incapable of performing the activity or task at hand. They find it to be unappealing. They believe things such, as “I could never complete such a task, even if I tried,” etc. This attitude is unfavourable and exhibits a lack of confidence. These people frequently conceal defects, lack focus, use a variety of justifications, place blame on others, and even feel envious of others’ success. They are also frequently closed-minded, gloomy, and fearful of change. Such folks lack confidence and are insecure. However, if someone has such thoughts running through their heads, they shouldn’t worry at all. There are strategies for increasing self-assurance. The only requirement is that you put forth the effort and attempt to build your self-esteem. You must put forth the effort on your own behalf. You cannot increase your confidence if you are unconfident in one area and do not dare to fight it. However, once you start doing the action, your confidence level gradually increases and eventually spreads to other areas as well. Numerous psychological studies and spiritual teachers/workers have numerous recommendations for how to increase self-confidence. The most crucial one is to avoid evaluating oneself against others in terms of appearance, performance, pay, job description, status, etc. Social comparison theory states that while the comparison is normal, it won’t help you feel more confident. Instead, it can have the exact opposite result. According to research, people typically feel envious when they compare themselves to others. The more envious people are, the worse they feel about themselves, so it constantly compounds. To overcome this, one must realise that everyone has individual goals and that life is not a competition. Everyone is different and blessed, and each person should look for the strength that can allow them to find their life’s purpose. Second, people who lack confidence should hang out with upbeat people. You must identify the friends who have positive opinions of you. On the other hand, you should think about cutting ties with pals who aren’t supportive or don’t think highly of you. Self-assurance and an optimistic outlook are considered to go hand in hand. Thirdly, practise self-compassion. When you make a mistake, fail at something, or have a negative experience, you must think kind thoughts about yourself. You become more emotionally adaptable as a result, and your ability to connect with people and yourself is improved. Studies have found a link between compassion and self-assurance.

Therefore, you should accept that situations that could make you feel flawed or like a failure are a natural part of life and the game. This is essential for compassionate analysis and subsequent application of the event. Positivity in one’s self-talk is the fourth approach to increasing confidence. Self-critical self-talk restricts one’s potential and self-assurance. Positive self-talk can help to build up the confidence to overcome self-doubt to face obstacles if there is a sensation in the back of your mind that you can’t do it, can’t handle it, too hard to try, etc. Think “I can do it” or “I have to do it” when sentiments of “I can’t manage it” or “this is impossible” come up. If you fail, at least say to yourself, “I’ve learnt from this and I’ll work even harder next time.” This will undoubtedly aid in strengthening confidence through encouraging self-talk. Additionally, you must face and overcome your own struggle. You won’t understand the extent of your powers if you avoid facing anything. You must therefore confront it while avoiding fear. It’s not at all wrong to be scared or worried about failing, but moving forward and working to boost your confidence will enable you to take greater risks in the future. Self-confidence can also be increased by living a healthy lifestyle. A good, balanced diet, regular, appropriate sleep, maintaining physical fitness, practising meditation, exhibiting positive body language, and upholding a positive environment all contribute to raising one’s degree of self-confidence. Building one’s self-confidence will undoubtedly be aided by making positive habits, reflecting on past successes and disappointments, and creating specific goals to raise one’s self-esteem. When one projects a positive image to others, self-confidence grows and one is more likely to receive positive responses from others. And this encouraging feedback will make it easier to have confidence in oneself. Even though many people struggle most of the time to develop self-confidence, it is essential in all parts of our lives. People lacking in self-confidence, unfortunately, have a lower chance of being successful in their careers. People who are confident always inspire others, including their peers, superiors, clients, friends, and audience members. Thus, one of the essential factors in achieving success in life is winning the confidence of people.

Sub-editor, Bold News